I can’t believe it’s been 2 years since I was February’s mistress of the month – I felt a little extra special knowing I was a significant part of making a submissive Valentine’s Day extra special!

Now, I know February 14th can be a minefield for non-sub guys, but this is where you’ve got a serious advantage. The #1 most important thing to remember is to LISTEN, and you do that better than your average Joe Schmoe. I mean, it’s really not as hard as it’s made out to be – we tend to make our feelings and expectations pretty well known. And not just us supremely confident dommes! I mean, it’s in all of our best interests to make it easy to please us, so it’s really just a matter of paying attention.

And that’s truly the best thing about a submissive man – he’s all about noticing the little things and finding new ways to please the women he adores. So it stands to reason that submissive Valentine’s Day treats are guaranteed to be the best kind! I’ll bet you’ve given some amazing ones in the past – I would love to hear about them! Seriously, gift giving is my ‘love language’, so I super-extra appreciate the effort others put into it.

1 – What is the relationship with the gift recipient?

Girlfriend, Wife, Ex, Cuckoldress, Mother, friend, roommate, phone mistress, co-workers, lifelong secret crush – do any of those surprise you? Okay so maybe not co-workers nowadays, lol, but I do have fond memories of going into work on Valentine’s Day and all the women had a red rose on their keyboard. We thought it was a class act. Anyway, my point is that you need to think about all of the ‘obvious’ women in your life whom you should honor on V-Day, and then also consider a few others who might get a boost from a little special acknowledgement.

2 – How do these ladies feel about Valentine’s Day?

Cards and red roses and fancy chocolate, and a gourmet dinner out with their sweetheart — yup, works for most of us! But there are a few signs to look for and respect. If she says things like “it’s a Hallmark Holiday” or complains about commercialism, do not get a traditional gift or card. It shows you didn’t listen. Does she lament that she’s single and all of her friends are out with their significant others that night? Or maybe something traumatic happened on that date. Just remembering that about them and showing a little sensitivity goes a long way. But as a good submissive man who thrives on pleasing women any way he can, I know you’ll do more. It’s just in your wonderful nature!

3 – Gift Guide for submissive Valentine’s Day treats

I’m going to take some of the gift-giving stress off your eager submissive shoulders and provide some stellar guidance for your Valentine’s Day efforts. I want your ladies to be happy, because I’m on #TeamAllWomen! So let’s dive in…

Flowers & Chocolates:  Think about what she values, and match with that. Is she into organic or supporting local businesses? Then don’t order from FTD or Teleflora. If you know of a particular brand or type of chocolate, candy, flower or plant that she loves, go all in on that. Is she watching her waistline? Skip the chocolate completely and substitute with gourmet coffee. Mm, great coffee is always a good idea, whether it’s a subbie substitution or not!

Cards:  Just one piece of advice here: Write something in it! Don’t just put “Love, Subbie” or whatever, that’s worse than no card at all. Do better.

Perfume:  It’s personal. Unless you are replenishing the supply of her favorite, don’t take a guess.

Sad Single Friend:  Are all of her girl-friends coupled up? Then it’s up to you to be her “Galentine”. You can take her somewhere that won’t have any Valentine dates (just about impossible), or you can create an experience at one of your homes. It might involve alcohol and streaking and trashy TV and Cards Against Humanity. I’d totally make you do the “helicopter” with your penis once we got tipsy enough, lol. Can’t do this because you’ve got someone special? Well, again, take her personality and preferences into consideration, but you could get her a massage with a hot therapist, a gift basket of lubes for lots of purposes, a new sex toy, a new journal (can be sentimental, new age, or snarky in nature!), a consultation with a dating expert.

The “Hallmark Holiday” Valentine Rebel: The key word here is “rebel”. It’s a significant part of her identity, and she does not want “the usual” – in fact, she’s made it clear she wants nothing. Buuuuutttt…if it’s the RIGHT thing…that’s different. Like, if she’s a fan of Mexican food, give her a large bottle of artisan hot sauce with a note that says “Happy Taco Tuesday” (because Valentine’s Day falls on a Tuesday this year). Or go ahead, get her some of that gourmet coffee I mentioned above and a mug that gives the finger.

Your Wife – Girlfriend – Mother:  I’ve got nothing to say there. If you are truly worthy of the term “submissive”, you need zero input from a total stranger. You know these women better than anyone else, and that should show in your efforts to find the perfect submissive Valentine’s Day treats for them.

Your Ex or Cuckoldress:  Absolutely something to enhance their sex lives and superiority! Sex toys, lingerie, spa days, V-Day dinner with her real man. You know your place.

Your Phone Mistress:  Oh this one is too easy – there’s a special tribute card you can send, timed to arrive exactly on the 14th! And of course we have wish lists, but I must warn you, mine is pretty unsexy (Amazon sucks for things to wear, except sneakers lol).

So there you go – thinking the way I want you to think, about pleasing all the women that matter on Valentine’s Day. I knew you were a good boy….