Today’s post comes courtesy of a letter from a reader with a consuming interest in serving a woman. He was drawn to the piece I wrote a couple of weeks ago on domestic submissives

You wrote a blog piece about domestic submissive and paying you to clean. I don’t know that that exact scenario would work for me. But I have to tell you it completely pulled me in. I cannot explain this and have never understood it or really discussed it with anyone ever. I really don’t even think most people would believe me or understand (I do not even understand so how could they?).

I have always had a sort of need to work for a female. It is not a “preference” or “an interest” or anything like that. It is a need. Your post touched me very deeply as I had never seen anything written about this and have never understood it. I have long fantasized about doing work for women or cleaning their homes or doing chores for them (for absolute free). I know it is a “make myself useful to them” kind of thing. I have looked for small ways to do this in “real life”. It is very gratifying to do chores or errands for females. It is even okay if they have husbands or boyfriends or whatever as long as I am doing an errand for them. Is this super odd?

 

Preference v Fetish

First I’ll address the “need” angle: this is the original definition of a fetish. While common usage these days equates “fetish” with “taste/preference”, it traditionally means a condition that you can’t get off without. A true shoe fetishist, for example, would not be able to get off without looking at a sexy pair of red-sole Louboutins. So what you have is closer to the original definition of having a true fetish for being a domestic servant-maid-houseboy.

 

Is This Fetish Super Odd?

Well, all fetishes are odd – it’s what makes them fetishes instead of vanilla/mainstream! And your service submissive angle, while unusual, isn’t as uncommon as you might think. True subs have a desire to be useful to women in some way, and they know the one thing we’re sick of is traditional “female work”. It’s fairly easy to find a man willing and interested in serving a woman in this capacity, though he doesn’t necessarily do it well lol. However, someone like you, with a distinct domestic angle to your submissive needs, would likely make an amazing houseboy. Because it is the one and only way you wish to serve, you’d make sure you did it with excellence. After all, you want to be invited back again and again!

 

Serving a Married Woman

Many married dominas, whether pro or not, often have subs for specific functions their husbands don’t fulfill, and it’s usually with his full awareness and approval. I mean, if she gets a kick out of spanking a good bottom’s bottom and the husband isn’t a bottom in either sense, who is losing out if she finds a sub who needs discipline every now and then? So cleaning for an attached woman is more confusing than in is farfetched, mostly because it’s hard to imagine any man wanting to clean. I only know one and he’s a gay man obsessed with Windex, lol, but his fetish is cleaning not servitude. I know, it’s different.

In closing, I hope you find a way to meet this need of yours to domestically please a mistress – you are offering a very mutually beneficial situation. And keep your eyes peeled for a post from me in a week or two about my crazy experiences trying to find someone like you!