Once upon a time in a land far, far away, I had a boyfriend with a decently average 6.5″ cock. But somehow, he kept forgetting he was only 6.5″ and frequently pulled too far back during the thrusting part of sex. At least once a month, I’d hear him pathetically whimper “Oh no!” because this happened on his orgasm thrust. I didn’t know at the time that what happened was called a ruined orgasm, but in retrospect, that’s exactly what it was. Again in retrospect, I realize it wasn’t totally ruined because he couldn’t keep going for a second one. I discovered that a few years later…

A True Ruined Orgasm – To Please ME

Along came a lovely man who never had to be told how much I enjoyed the in-and-out part of sex. About half the time we got busy, he would pull out and ruin his orgasm after about 10 minutes, then keep going for another 15 or so. OMG, I thought this was the most brilliant thing ever! I was used to guys barely lasting 5 minutes, and then along came this total pleaser of a sex god! And yet, I still didn’t know that there was such a thing as a ruined orgasm, but I didn’t really care if it had a name as long as it meant I got a longer ride *giggle*.

How I Know You Ruined It Right

So it was a pretty funny moment when I was learning about aspects of female domination that were new to me and it dawned on me that, hey, I actually knew this one already! It also became apparent how tricky it is to ruin an orgasm effectively, especially when I’m instructing a phone sex stroker to do it to himself. But the first time I ruined an orgasm for a caller was a very happy moment for me indeed!

You see, even a ruined orgasm still feels a little bit good, and the key is to minimize just how ‘good’ it feels. When done right, either your erection doesn’t let up or it just gets a little bit soft before it hardens back up all the way. And of course, you’re still horny as hell! But if you don’t ruin it enough, it felt ‘too good’ and your brain and cock flip you into a semblance of post-orgasmic satisfaction and generally speaking, you hang up pretty quickly, lol.

I really do love it when you get the ruination right. You make these cute little whimpering noises and I hear embarrassment in your voice when you beg for another chance to orgasm ‘for real this time’. You’ll do just about anything to stroke and cum…but no permission is forthcoming. After all, a mistress ruins your orgasm because you’re more fun to play with when your dick is still hungry!