Admit it, you’re kinky as fuck. I have no problem ‘fessing up to my wicked ways, and you shouldn’t either – to the right people. But therein lies the dilemma…you want to tell every woman you meet all about what you’re into, to see if they’re into it too. I have met men like that in a non-sexual context, and despite being a kinkster myself, I don’t appreciate when it enters the interaction too soon. Hint: the first conversation with someone is too soon.

Lots of women, whether they identify as kinky or not, are open to trying new things, though admittedly we tend to go through phases of feeling sexually adventurous whereas for you boys, it’s a perpetual state! I love knowing I can count on pretty much any guy to say ‘yes’ to letting me do kinky things to him, or have him do things to me – it’s one of your gender’s best qualities. But it’s really important to tune into where a woman is at before you start tip-toeing around a little fetishy fun.

Kinky TMI Has Consequences

When you give out “Too Much Information”, you make the people around you really uncomfortable. Okay, lol, that’s the basic definition of TMI, but it bears stating. This has happened on first dates, work events, friends’ weddings, Christmas parties, you name it. I beat a hasty retreat when that happens because I know that the guy is determined to make the interaction all about his penis. I mark him as self-centered, socially inappropriate and disrespectful. I don’t even necessarily let him know I find it distasteful because it just perpetuates attention to his penis, and penises don’t care if they’re getting “bad attention” – all attention is good to them. Sigh…the nature of the beast, right?

The Myth of “No Harm In Trying”

Actually, when you lead with your kink, e.g. “I love your shoes, I bet they’d taste great” or “I practice edging for hours at a time so I can last longer in bed”, we know you just see us as a fetish accessory, not a person. I mean, the odds of a woman actively seeking a shoe-licker or chronic masturbator rather than a sexy man to explore with are barely non-zero. Very barely. And you may try to reason it otherwise, but you know this. Pushing that envelope, boys, qualifies as ‘harm’ because we ladies end up feeling as objectified as a slutty sissy in a cheerleader uniform. AND you’re topping from the bottom! Bad bottom bitch *spank*! (See now that’s appropriate, lol).

And This Is Where A Phone Sex Mistress Come Into Play – Literally!

We want to discover your kink and know all about how it started, how it works for you, what little details really make your dick tick. We don’t mince words, and neither should you! And I love hearing that telling me is like confessing to a priest (okay so maybe I have a bit of a blasphemy fetish myself, lol) – it tells me that you really do think about how that knowledge makes others feel. Plus, telling me in my capacity as a mistress rather than some hot chick waiting in line next to you, gets you a very interested and juicy response 🙂  I especially like to hear about unusual fetishes and am happy to roleplay the unexpected, so let your freak flag fly without hesitation around me!