LISTEN: The Girlfriend Experience Podcast, Ep7: Pegging
For the uninitiated, let’s kick things off with a definition. The act of pegging is when a woman uses a strap-on to penetrate a man. But it doesn’t have to be some crazy, intense experience, though it tends to be because there are some mental hurdles for the man to overcome to enjoy this type of play. Anyway, the prostate is easily stimulated from the act of pegging, which can lead to better and longer lasting orgasms—and who doesn’t want that?
I’m so glad things have changed from like, 15 years ago maybe? I remember a guy in real life telling me that he’d love to have his ass fingered – or more – but he couldn’t ask his wife because she’d declare him gay and divorce his ass so fast his head would spin. I also think that guys are so happy to be getting good sex that they don’t want to rock the boat. And while you and I are indeed very sexually open, there is an element of risk involved when bringing up the idea of using a strap-on with a partner. I get it.
Does Pegging Mean Pain?
Sadly a lot of people think that inflicting pain is a bigger part of the dom-sub dynamic than it is – and really, if I want to make a guy say “ouch”, it’s going to be from a strap ON his ass, not a strap-on IN his ass! Hehe, see what I did there? But the right amount of lube and getting pegged by someone attentive to your body’s feedback is all you need to avoid pain, it’s really quite simple.
Pretty much every position a woman can take a cock should be just as good for a guy too for his anal pleasure during pegging, though it does tend to work best for beginners you get on all fours and let the woman drive from behind. Plus, you might even get a reach around!
Does Enjoying A Strap-On Mean You’re Gay?
You really need to try in like 2-3 times to figure out if they truly like it or dislike it. That first time, you can be so stuck in your head over that whole “does this mean I’m gay if I like it” nonsense that you barely remember the sensation. Like, come on guys – it just means you have a sex organ in there and it’s me, a GIRL, stimulating it!
Seriously, if a guy wanted a real cock, it’s not like that would be hard to find. I’m a woman, I have a toy, and you have a delicious little sex gland in there just begging for me to stimulate it! Wanting to experience anal pleasure by yourself or with a woman is not a homosexual act. It’s not like you’re going to cum with a girl-cock in your ass and have some kind of sexuality-changing epiphany, that’s not how it works.
MY Strap-On Fantasy
I’ll be honest – I’ve done some very naughty things to a man’s ass before, but I’ve never pegged one. So far that’s just been fantasy only. In the dating world, I tend to deal with, how shall I put this, post-millennial men who had serious issues getting over that whole “does this make me gay” thing. Others give me the same line about how “that’s an exit only!”, and I figure I’ve made great advances when they eventually try my finger or, like, a Sharpie marker lol. Anyway, I just want the guys out there to know that they’re not the only ones out there with strap-on fantasies – I have them too!
Pegging is not gay if you’re pegged by a woman
Miss Claire,
I really like this post. First, I can whole heartedly attest to the fact that there are VERY pleasurable sensations that a man can get from having his ass penetrated. The size of my dildo collection is proof! Taking it a step further, being penetrated by a man is a whole new level. Yes, I am gay, which brings me to my second point…
Labels. I think we, as a society, are WAY too hung up on labels. I’m guilty of it, too. I struggled for many years with defining my sexual orientation. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m gay…sexually attracted to men. But, recently, I’ve come to a deeper conclusion. Reading your post about pegging got me excited. And that’s GREAT! Buying into the label of “gay” (in today’s terms) closes off the possibility of playing with women in any capacity. But, why does it have to be like that?
I know what you’re thinking, “Aaron, you’re bi!” I don’t feel like “bi” fits me. I’m definitely attracted to men. For the most part, I don’t have the desire to be with women physically. But why not cross that boundary once in a while and have two players from different teams play together? YOU can get satisfaction of pleasuring a man in his ass (and enjoy some control, etc), while at the same time, I can enjoy being penetrated with something long and hard. We can both let go and enjoy ourselves without labels or societal judgement.
Perhaps “gay” is the wrong label for me. I’m a very happy and proud cocksucker (and a total bottom), but I’m not opposed to exploring boundaries. Just because I like Salad it doesn’t mean I’m Vegan, right? So should be the same for sexuality!
Keep up the great work! And thanks for giving us a forum to be as open and free as we want!